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Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx

Broken Hearted – please help me – how do i cope?

Hi – I was told 3 weeks ago by my girlfriend of 5 years and who i have 2 children with that she didnt want to be with me. I then found out there was someone else and it had beein going on for some time. This guy is someone she met at work and he left his GF for mine. Over the past 2-3 months – (since she went back to work from maternity leave) she became very distant and more unaffectionate than she usually is – she was contantly txting on her new iphone and was always making excuses to leave the room to txt. In the past she was the best mother in the world to our children but more recently she let that slip (although – she wasnt awful) – i seemed to be looking after the children aot when she was obsessed with going to work (no i know why). I knew something was up but was probably in denial about the whole situation – but did confront her numerous times – she always denied there was someone else. Ont the day she told me she didnt want to be with me anymore – she had not gone into wrk and i later found out she had been with him and they had been in a hotel together -(i found out aboutt he hotel around a week after being told she didnt want to be with me). Now i cant say all this woithout admitting that I have not been an ideal partner in the past and cant help thinking that some of this is my fault – although i dnt think i deserve what is happening to me now. She didnt come on the family holiday that had been planned for nearly 12 months but did let me take the children. It was very hard saying goodbye to her especially coz i know that she was always such a good mummy – even tho i knew she was and had been with someone else for quite a while. I was told that i had to leave the house we had lived in for 4 years otherwise the kids would not be able to come on holiday – so id did. My GF always had a fantastic relationship with my family and they hae done so much for us over the years – she had always helped out my family where possible also. I am so so so heartbroken and cannot accept that she is with another man in my house and she i having what i can imagine to be an exciting and fun time with her new. She has changed so much in the past few months and i miss her old self. We had children very young but always seemed sort of happy – she did always sggest that one day i would regret how i hgave been -but would also say that she wanted to be with me for the reast of her life – 2 months ago was the last tme she said that. I think i want her back although there is no way she wants that at the moment – i also know that things would never be the same again and i cant have her back! Im in complete turmoil on what to do and how to cope – i really need some advise and help and would like to know if this could be phase and if she would eve feel any regret of her own? Please advise – im in a right ste

Oh boy, 18 yr. old dating 32 yr. old?

I’ll apologize in advance because this is bound to be long.

Yes, I’m the 18 yr. old. I worked with… we’ll call him “Tom”… for about a year, and there was always INSANE sexual tension. There was mental chemistry too, though. I’m normally somewhat quiet even with people I know, but with him I always know something witty to say. However, I NEVER wanted a relationship with him.

Anyway, he eventually got a new job and we’d communicate occasionally through Facebook and texts, but we controlled ourselves… minimal flirting and definitely no physical contact. Things stayed like that for months until a couple shortly after I turned 18 (I had then known Tom for about a year and a half). There was a situation with his ex we were discussing through text one night, and it turned into a general conversation that lasted until 5:30 in the morning on a weekday!

After that we started talking every day, and I eventually agreed to go out with him. I expected it to be a short-lived thing. I am a virgin, but what I secretley wanted was sleep him wih and leave without anyone knowing. I have NEVER wanted someone in this kind of physical way. However, I am smarter than that.

Somehow, we ended up hitting it off much better than I thought. We have been dating exclusively for 3 months now and fooled around (up to oral… he was my first for everything other than light kissing) but still no actual sex. I have been very clear about my boundaries.

I know he wants it though… and soon. As much as I thought that’s all he wanted for so long, he is now taking me to family functions and introducing me to friends! I enjoy spending time with him but am too ashamed to tell my family or any friends, other than my best friend, about our “relationship”.

I know I didn’t state a clear question, and I probabaly sound like a complete mess right now. It’s because I am. I have no one to talk to about this.

I just want your evaluation of the situaion based on what I’ve said. Is it possible that he really wants some kind of future with me?? I’m going away to college in the fall and thought things would end then, but he talk about plans involving me long after that! I’m scared because part of me is starting to grow closer to him (we’re with each other almost every day, and I’ve spent the night as his apartment) and want that too.

He’s comfortable to me. He’s easy, and, honestly, I’m happy but know there’s better out there for me… and maybe for him too!

I just don’t know what to do. I could go on and on with my thougts.

P.S. There are a lot of gramatical errors in my post; I know. Sorry. They’re hard to go back and fix on an iPhone.

is the abuse my fault or my boyfriends?

my boyfriend and i have had a serious of bad arguments which have resulted in me feeling alone and unloved. to give a idea of the arguments we have i will give you an example of what i found the worst night i have experienced, it was the day after i found out i was expecting and we had decided to keep it although the finance not being adequate my boyfriend was very happy. it was his dads wedding and i wasnt very far along about 8 or 9 weeks and i wasnt feeling to well in the evening he wanted to dance at a point and i said i would later as i was feeling ill but he turned on me calling me a s**t for dancing with other people in the past and not him now and starting threatening to do horrible things i started crying so i left as i didnt want to argue and was going to go home half way down the road he came and and grabbed me told me not to leave and i said i wanted to go home he held me so tight i couldnt breathe and threw up then he chucked me on a bench people where coming so he told me to stop crying he took my phone and said he would text everyone saying i was pregnant when i didnt want to tell my family yet i tried to get it off him he then said if i dont shut up he would smash it he then threw it and my iphone smashed into 3 pieces i ran further away to get away he spat in my face so i pushed him away and he pushed me on the floor he said to me be quiet or ill kill you so i slapped him regrettably and went to run away but he hit me back everything went black and i fell to the ground when i got up he told me he was going to kill himself so i said id forgive him and forget it so he wouldnt, i then had to go back and he spent the rest of the night dancing and laughing with me sitting on my own trying not to cry and his family thinking of me as a moody bitch he says its my fault because i hit him first i feel like it was argument that wasnt needed over something stupid and i regret slapping him. he had hit me previously when i confronted him about something but he just says he only pushed me or i fell to the floor cus my foot slipped on the rug and laughs and jokes about it. because the violence carried on and i was throwing up everything i would eat and got no support just be called lazy if i wanted to go to bed early or selfish because i sat around doing nothing, and i didnt feel like sex everyday which if i didnt do it would result in argument between us both so id have to although it would cause me to be sick during. when i try to talk about my feelings and say how hurt i am by his actions he always ignores me and brings up me speaking to my ex which i did when i planned to try and leave this relationship and he has done nothing wrong ive done all the bad things thats why he doesn’t talk about it. i have tried to break up with him as im aware this is an unhealthy relationship and i believe partners should bring out the best in each other but he threatens me till i give up and give in, i always thought i was a strong person till now. i want me and him to be ok and get help but he doesnt seem to think there is a problem but that im crazy.

So I made the mistake…..?

Arite So I’m a real nice and great person and all whatever. Anyway, I made the mistake of beginning my first day of high school absolutely IDK what a word would be. I had my dad take the nice car to drop me off, I wore my best clothes, I actually just got a new phone, hair fixed and whatnot and everything just amazing. So I go into the school with the other 400 freshman guys (I go to an all guys catholic school) and people are somewhat drawn to me. Then they would keep talking and they’d be like, Oh, Do you have $ (Not asking to borrow, more like, are you rich?) And I would quietly be like yeah…Only because I didn’t wanna brag and the only reason why I went to school all “glam-ed” up was because I was really insecure and self conscious and nervous! Anyway, after the first few days, I realized how many people would talk to you because you had “things”. So I made a lot of “friends” real quick, they all claim they don’t want the money and I’m cool. I blindly believed this for a while. I’m beginning to see they (Some, but not all!) Are kinda just in it for the stuff and money, which hurts. Problem now. Now with the economy so bad, my family had a lot of money in stocks we lost a lot and got to move to a smaller house, Go from the iPhone to a Rumor and just downgrade things a little, and I’m actually alright with it. My friends, not so much. I used to be in with all the cool parties, like going to one almost every night/Friday/weekend. And I would come to school each day and naturally tell my friends of the party the previous day. And then it starts with them, they want to meet my friends, they want to come to the parties, ect….
So yesterday, I invited my one friend to one(party). Anyway, my phone got stolen by some girl, and he never actually made it into the party and he got all mad calling me a liar and everything. And alright, I understand, the last few times that we were going to hang out, the plans have broken, I’ve had to go away ASAP, I got sick, and last night with my phone being taken and so much stupid drama.
Anyway, I spent the day alone today. I feel absolutely awful. I really am attached to my possessions, I do think about $ and status a lot, and the worst, I’ve lied.
My family does have money and everything and thats nice, but not as much as I set my self out to have (meaning, not as much as kids think I have). And now I’m screwed. All these kids now want to come to parties and meet my other friends and I kinda want to tone down my partying, like not go anymore because all they do is underage drink and smoke and I just don’t want them to meet my other friends, I’m like a different person with different people. School friends, I’m classy and reserved, around my other friends not from school, were loud and obnoxious and laugh and cry and do fun things and just can be and nobody cares about money. I kinda really opened my eyes today and saw that I’m basically screwed. I lied so much and made way to many promises that I can’t keep and said things I shouldn’t have and changed who I was just to be liked. And now, I’m not who I am. I try way to hard to separate my school life from home life. I’m afraid of going out to places with my school friends and all they think about is money and status. I decided I want to go to Confession tomorrow, and I am because lying is terrible. I just feel so bad. What can I do about my “friends”.
Now lets be real guys, I can’t just be like Hi Um, I lied I’m not who I was. Lets be real, if your in as deep as I am, it doesn’t work like that, sorry.
What can I do to still remain friends but take the huge money aspect out of it?

I’ve fuc*&^ up major-ly. And I sincerely am sorry because all my lying is making me sick to my stomach, mostly because my lies might/sorta all ready did catch up to me.

Help.
I’m sorry it’s so long.

Any ideas for what phone I should get?

I recently got a job and I’m planning to buy a new phone after I get paid. I had a fairly good phone a while ago but had it stolen so I’m looking to buy a more recent phone, most likely a touch screen one because I’ve heard some good reviews about them from friends/family.

I was wondering if anyone has a newer touch screen phone or knows anything about them, such as which perform best or which have better features for the least money etc.

I have been looking at the LG viewty and like that one, but Im not sure if I want to get it. I can’t afford an apple Iphone and my budget is probably maximum of £180ish…I don’t want to spend much more than that right now

Hope someone can give me ideas of a nice phone to get, preferrably a touch screen but if anyone can tell me about other phones which are good i’ll be greatful.

PS. I am looking for a phone with a camera of 5megapixel or more, with bluetooth, music player, the usual phone blather

thanks! xx